Friday, November 30, 2012

BAGGAGE

Good morning, Mighty Woman of God!  I pray that you are all blessed and highly favored of the Lord on today.  I speak blessing of peace and joy upon you. Read your bible and pray daily and the Lord will turn your heavy days to lighter days.  Trust the Lord in every aspect of your life and He will never leave nor forsake you.

Everybody has baggage.  I don't care who you are or what you have going on in your life, you have baggage.  Now, how much baggage you have and how you carry your baggage is totally up to you.  If you are in a relationship with someone you both have baggage.  Will you accept their baggage and will they accept your baggage?  For instance, you meet a guy that is a known alcoholic, that's his baggage.  You can either accept his baggage or move on with your baggage.  Don't expect that guy to change because you are so loving to him.  The mistake that women tend to make is that they try to change the person that they are in a relationship with.  They say to themselves, "He'll change once we are in a relationship or married".  You want to empty his baggage and put what you want in the bag.  You cannot dump out his baggage, he has to do that for himself.  If you have decided to accept him then you have decided to accept him and his baggage.
 
Here's another example.  The man that you are interested in is currently cheating on another woman with you.  You somehow you put it in your head that one he gets with you, that his cheating days are over.  This man has cheater in his baggage and you cannot empty it, he has to empty it himself.  You cannot change his baggage, no matter how much you love him.  Now let's talk about your baggage.  If you have children the man that you are in a relationship with has to be willing to accept you and your children. I'm not talking about just being around your children, I'm talking about being willing to be a father figure and role model for your children.  Your children have to come first and if his is not willing to accept your baggage then he is not the man for you.  Let's say that your baggage is low self-esteem or maybe you don't trust men because of the damage that they have done to you in the past.  The person that you allow in your world has to be willing to accept your baggage.  This is the same scenario with anyone that you allow in your life, whether it is a friend or a significant other.
 
If you have a close friend, then you both can grab the handle of each others baggage and carry them.  Baggage is much lighter when you have someone to help you carry it.  Your best friend should not be talking to others about your baggage, they should be helping you to carry it. And the same goes for you.  You should not be talking about your best friends baggage, you should be helping him/her carry their baggage.  If you are helping one another carry the baggage, then you are also in a position to help each other get rid of some of the bad things in the baggage.  If you are in a relationship with someone that is not willing to help you carry your baggage and they just keep watching you struggle with it, then you are with the wrong person.  A friend, spouse or significant other that loves you will not sit back and watch you struggle with your baggage.  They will grab the other end and help you carry it. PRAISE GOD!
 
Please don't forget that I am always available to you for prayer or if you just need someone without prejudice to talk to.  Don't let the enemy make you think that you have to handle difficult situations by yourself.  This ministry is for you.  I will never betray your confidence or trust in me.
 
The Women's Conference is May 25, you can sign up in my events calendar.  Come on out for fellowship and a good time in the Lord.  God is sending me to Chicago for you so I know that you will be blessed by the Lord.