Friday, August 31, 2012

PITY PARTIES

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that you are blessed and highly favored of the Lord.  That you walk in the Lord's grace and mercy on today.  Have a blessed weekend!
 
(Isaiah 61), ....to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
 
I got a phone call from my son on today.  He was very upset so he tends to ramble on without taking a breath.  He just talked about how bad his life has been every since childhood.  Now, he didn't have a bad home life, he begin with getting bit in the face by a dog, twice.  He talked about how he was talked about by his classmates about the scars.  My son is very handsome and the scars are barely noticeable because it happened when he was very young.  He complained about bills, job, apartment, food and the worst thing was that he got stabbed on my birthday.  He saids his life is over and the age of 29.  I am 48 years old and I must say that he hasn't even begun to live.  Most of you are about my children's age, so if you think you have seen the worst, I hate to break it to you, you haven't.  The more the devil tries to put on you, the bigger the blessing that God has on your life.
 
I was very upset that my son was going through so much and I wish I could exchange places with him, because he is my son.  No mother wants to hear about their children's painful situations.  At the time that he called I was listening to worship music.  I started to go to his "pity party" and just started to feel down.  Then all of a sudden, I heard the Lord say, "don't do that".  So I started tuning into the music and prayed while my son was talking.  He was rambling on and on and every now and then he would make sure that I was still listening to him.  I would acknowledge that I was still on the phone, but one ear was listening to the music and my mind stayed on the Jesus. I had refused not to let no devil in hell still my joy and I was not going to his "pity party" today.  In the past I attended my sons "pity party" every time he would call complaining.  I also realized that my son wasn't the only one that the devil was after because of my blessings that the Lord has for me, the enemy wants me to stop working on my book and planning to minister at the shelter and holding a women's conference next year.
 
When my son got through, I started praying for him, I mean I went into spiritual warfare and told the devil where he can go.  I spoke blessings over my son and declared that the Lord will show Himself strong in my son's life.  My son has come a long way and I refuse to let the enemy get him back.
 
My message to you is, never go to your children's "pity party".  Listen to them so that you will know what to pray and let the enemy know that he can't have them. You have to know what the bible says about your children and how to speak the scriptures over them.  That is why it is very important for you to recognize what is happening and what scriptures to speak over you and your children.  The bible says, to speak the Word of God over them.  Just like you can curse people with your mouth, you can surely bless them and yourself by speaking the Word of God over any situation.  When you are having your own "pity party" refuse to stay there.  Take a good look at the circumstances and find joy in every situation.  My son was bit in the face, but he is still alive, thank you Jesus.  My son complaining about his job, thank you Jesus, that even in this economy, I have a job.  My son complained about his apartment, thank you Jesus, I have a roof over my head.  He complained about not having enough money, thank you Jesus, I have some money.  He has to eat at his grandmother's, thank you Jesus I have a family that I can depend on.  That is how you shake the devil off of you and your children.  The devil wants you to attend "pity parties" or have one yourself.  He cannot stand it when you praise the Lord, I mean he really hates it.  If all you think about are the bad things that you are going through he will have succeeded in stealing your joy and he is laughing at you.  Praise the Lord when you are going through fiery trials and you will turn the tables on the enemy and you will be the one laughing.  Please remember, before the party begins, quote scriptures instead of the bad things, you will find something to praise Jesus for, even if it's only for dying on the cross so that you can live eternity in heaven with Him.  PRAISE GOD!  AMEN!

Thursday, August 30, 2012

PEER PRESSURE

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I speak blessings of peace and joy upon your lives.  I pray that you are all blessed and highly favored and that the ministry has been a blessing to you.
(1 Corinthians 15:58), Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm.  Let nothing move you.  Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you knw that your labor in the ord is not in vain.

Christians deal with a lot of peer pressure.  Once you have decided to dedicate your life to Jesus Christ, your friends and family that are not saved, will always try to pressure you into doing the same old things.  They don't want you to try to change.  For some reason, being a Christian can be intimidating to people that are not Christians.  Peer pressure comes in because just like your friends don't want you to change your life, neither does Satan.  He will use your peers to try to keep you in darkness and keep you from getting delivered from things that you need to give up in order to live righteous before the Lord.  Christians deal with a lot of peer pressure because the enemy knows that he just lost a soul and Christ has gained a sheep.
Sometimes we tend to try to play both sides of the fence.  When want to keep our friends that we know we should not hang around, and we want to praise and worship the Lord.  It's very difficult to play both sides of the fence.  I tried it and it doesn't work.  What will happen is that the greater spirit will eventually win your soul.  If you are having difficulty dealing with peer pressure, keep going to church.  Keep your bible even closer because the enemy will try to use people to keep you from fulfilling God's purpose for your life.  Your peers don't even know that the enemy is using them to keep you from reaching your destiny in Christ.  If you are dealing with peer pressure, pray that the Lord God will put people in your life that will be able to keep you lifted up and will accept your decision to become a Christian.  Pray that God will lead you to the right people that will be able to make positive deposits in your life and not withdraws.
We all have experienced peer pressure once we got saved.  Once you become a Christian, your desire is to change, that is why you made the choice to be a Christian, but the change can be difficult if you don't have the right type of people around you.  You still want to hang out at the club with your friends, but on the other hand you want to do what is right before God.  You don't want them to start talking about you behind your back, but if they do it because you have decided to be a Christian, then the truth of the matter is that they always did talk behind your back.  Now they just talk about something different.  If you are hanging around people that prefer that you to stay the same way, that's peer pressure.
Once I decided to give my life fully to the Lord, I mean make a decision to stop partying, doing drugs and drinking the peers in my life changed.  God gave me some new friends.  God gave me a new dance and song in my heart.  I never looked down on people, I just knew what I wanted for my life and that was to fulfill God's purpose for me.  I wanted a change, my peers didn't want me to change because they thought that I thought that I was better than them.  I never gave them a thought at all.  If you are dealing with peer pressure, I understand.  I also understand how hard it is to give up your old nature.  It's like turning in your old wardrobe for new clothes.  You don't know how they are going to look when you put them on, but you know that you want a change.  God bless you.
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Tuesday, August 28, 2012

CONFERENCE

Hello my sisters in Christ.

I live in Georgia now, originally from Chicagoland area, Dolton.  I am thinking about holding a women's conference there sometime in May.  It will be of no charge to you.  What I want to know is if you would be interested in coming to the conference.  I have to look for a venue so that I can book it and start paying on it monthly.  I just want to know if I will have enough ppl. to hold the conference.  If you would be interested just click like or leave message say okay.  I know that it is early but before you know it time does fly and I have a lot of planning to do.

Monday, August 27, 2012

CLIMBING MOUNTAINS


Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that each of you are having a blessed day!  No matter what obstacles you have to hurdler over know that you can jump high with the strength that God has given unto you.
 
(Matthew 17:20), And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, if ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.  Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.
 
In this scripture the disciples wanted to know why they could not cast the demon out of the man's son.  Jesus says to them that they did not have enough faith.  I am thinking that because of the boy's demon, the disciples had never seen it before, so in their minds they had already been defeated.
 
Woman of God, a lot of times we tend to look at our situation and develop a mindset that we are already defeated.  Sometimes the mountain may be something that you never had to deal with before and you have a defeated mentality.  Maybe you are saying that you do have faith to yourself, but deep down inside, you feel defeated.  If you already feel defeated the enemy knows that and he will try to make your situation destroy your faith in the Lord.
 
If something goes wrong in your mind and you are thinking that God did not answer your prayer, maybe you should consider that just because things didn't go the way that you had hoped for does not mean that God is not moving mountains on your behalf.   The point that I am trying to make is that God knows the outcome way before it happens.  He knows everything and you must have faith that He has looked at your circumstances and has determined that you need to climb over the mountain instead of Him removing it out of your way. 
 
You see, a lot of times we look at that scripture and expect God to move that mountain out of the way.  If God does not move that mountain (whatever is in your way of your blessing), then He will equip you with whatever you need to climb it.  It is easier to have the mountain removed, but if you have to climb that mountain you will have gained more strength.  You will have gained strength in your prayer life and strength in your relationship with God because you will need Him more while you are climbing over the circumstances in your life.
 
Some mountains God will remove, there are some mountains He wants you to climb and some that He wants you to walk through.  While you are climbing, He knows that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  God knows that you will need perseverance in the next level of your spiritual journey.  Perseverance produces character, character produces hope.  You have to have faith and trust in the Lord that He is working everything out for your good.  God will not have you climb a mountain without giving you exactly what you need to overcome it.  If you have to climb instead of easily walking through or going around, rejoice in the Lord because He is getting ready to bless you abundantly when you get to the other side.  Your promise is on the other side of the mountain.  Your blessing is on the other side of the mountain.  You cannot see what's on the other side, but because of your obediance your promises and blessings are there.  Amen!
 
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Friday, August 24, 2012

GREED


Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I thank the Lord for each of you daily.  My prayer for you is that you are growing in the ministry and have been and will continue to be blessed and highly favored of the Lord Jesus Christ.
 
(Matthew 26:14-16), Then one of the twelve, called Judas Iscariot, went unto the chief priests, And said unto them, What will ye give me, and I will deliver him unto you? And they covenanted with him for thirty pieces of silver. And from that time he sought opportunity to betray him.
 
Jesus had twelve disciples that journeyed with him throughout the land.  They observed Him pray for people and stood and watched miracles happen right before their very eyes.  There was not doubt in their mind that Jesus of Nazareth was the Messiah.  They knew that Jesus Christ was the Son of the Living God.  They were in the boat when a tremendous storm was about to overtake the boat and drown them.  They saw and heard Jesus speak to the sea, "peace be still".  "What kind of man is this that even the sea obeys Him, was the question they asked themselves.
 
Judas was among one of the twelve disciples that Jesus had with him on a daily basis.  So the question is, what would make a man that has seen so many miracles performed by Christ betray him?  One simple answer, GREED!  A spirit of greed will make you do things that you would have never thought was in your character.  For some reason, we always want more.  We tend to want more than we need and don't even think about giving to someone else in fear that we will not replace what we have given away.
 
The point that I am trying to get to today is that some of us have items stored away in our possession that we no longer want or need.  Instead of donating them to a charity, we just keep pushing the items back further in the closest.  You have grown two sizes and you are waiting to be able to fit those clothes again so you will not donate them to people that have nothing.  You have items stored in the basement and you won't give them away in fear that you will need them in five years.  Don't you understand that your blessings come from giving?  The bible says, "give and it shall be given unto you".  If you give away two suits, the Lord will give you four more. 
 
There are women in homeless or abuse shelters that have left their homes with nothing but the clothes on their backs.  Their children had to leave their toys and clothes.  When they are in the process of gaining their lives back, they need clothes to go on interviews and items to start living in a new apartment.  Just think about that for a moment.
 
Cain killed his brother Abel because of greed.  Abel didn't have as much, but he gave his best, therefore God accepted his gift and not Cain's.  God knew that Cain had more, but Cain didn't want to give his best.  Judas betrayed Jesus Christ for thirty pieces of silver that he didn't get a chance to spend.  He committed suicide because he couldn't live with what he had done.
 
My challenge for you today is to look around your house and take inventory. Be honest with yourself about the items that you know you don't or won't wear again. Take a look at pots and pans that you could donate. Also, never give anybody something that you wouldn't want for yourself. What good is it to give away something that is torn or broken, if you do that you have done nothing. When you give something away to be a blessing it should be your best.  You will never know when you will be at a point in your life when you are in need.  Amen!

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Wednesday, August 22, 2012

BREAKING SHACKLES

Hey, Ladies, I am so excited today.  God always gives me something special on my birthday.  A word from Him.  Maybe a song, but every year I get excited about God's gift to me.  Today my sister told me that she was proud of me and the women's ministry and book, I was tearful.  But today my book became available on Amazon.com.  That's my gift from God.  I was checking everyday, but today something just told me to check on today.  After all, it is my birthday.  So it is now available on Amazon.com.  Just go to the website and enter the name of the book and narrow it down to Christianity and it will be the second book on the page.  God is so good.  Happy Birthday to me.

Thanks for all the birthday wishes from all of you, I love you all, too.  God bless you.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

CHRISTIAN STONES

Good morning, Mighty Woman of God!

Yep, that's exactly what each of you are, mighty woman.  No matter what's going on in your life right now, you are mighty, your weapons of warfare are mighty.  I speak blessings of joy upon each of you today.

(Psalms 54:10), Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me:

The message today may step on some toes.  I want you to keep an open mind as you read this one on today.  If you are convicted in your spirit, then the message is going to help you, not hurt you.  God wants you to be perfected in this area, if you are convicted by the Holy Spirit.  When I give a message like this one, I don't want to lose any of you, but on the other hand, I must give it the way that God gives it to me.  If it will make you fill any better, I had to have this message taught to me at a time that I thought I was all that.  So here we go!

What are Christian stones?  Christian stones are those soft subtle stones we throw at each other.  It's those phony smiles and hugs we give to each other in the church.  Christians have a way of hurting each other more than those outside of the church.  Christian stones is all that judging that we do to each other.  Then we have the nerve to say, "well, I don't mean no harm".  Yes you do.  You mean every bit of harm that you do, unless you are an infant that doesn't no any better.  Sometimes you say, "I didn't mean it like that".  Well, how did you mean to say it?

Christian stones is also that gossiping on the phone when you are supposed to be praying for someone on the prayer line.  It's that look we give to the First Lady because she has on a nice outfit.  A Christian stone is the envy you have in your heart because you didn't get the solo this week.  They are the wickedness you hide in your heart from others that think that you are a good person, they think you really mean it when you say, "God bless you, sister so and so.

Christians can be so judgmental towards people.  You judge people all the time.  You judge people in the church that may smell like alcohol in service.  You judge their circumstances when they confide in you.  You really can't be trusted because your heart isn't right.  Instead of praying for them, you turn your nose up like you have never been delivered from anything.  We judge people out of the church, thinking that we are more superior, because we went to church this morning.  Instead of praying for their souls you are throwing your subtle remarks like, "we are you going to get saved?"  Maybe your neighbor is not saved because she knows what type of a person that you really are on the inside.

We make excuses for ourselves when we sin, we justify our sins and our bad behavior.  The Lord knows what is in your heart no matter who you think you are hiding your inner most thoughts from.  Your inner most thoughts about a person is exactly where the Lord wants you to be perfected.  It's not enough to just say, "well the Lord knows my heart".  Well, He surely does and He knows that there is no good coming from it.  Let's try to fix your heart.  The next time that you have something negative to say about your spouse, friends, co-workers, brothers and sisters in Christ, think about what you are thinking in your heart.  It's those times when you don't say it out loud, but in your heart you are full of spite, rude, hatred, bitterness towards a person.  That is the innermost part that the Lord wants to work on.  Let God create in you a clean heart and a right spirit with you.  Amen!
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Monday, August 20, 2012

WHEN YOU STUMBLE

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

(Psalms 37:23-24), If the Lord delights in a man's way, he makes his steps firm; though he stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.

I pray that you are all blessed and highly favored of the Lord Jesus Christ on today.  I hope that today's message will be a blessing to you as well.

When you stumble, why not say, "if you stumble?"  It would be unrealistic for me to assume that you would never stumble at some point in your spiritual journey.  You will stumble, that's a given.  We all stumble at some time, even the most elect in the churches.  We are imperfect people and therefore we are always doomed to that awful thing called "sin".

When I got baptized into the Body of Christ, I immediately thought that all my sins were washed away as soon as I came up from that pool.  The bible says, all things are new, the old has passed away and that I would be a new creature in Christ.  That is exactly what I was expecting, right then and there, right on the spot.  I thought that the moment I decided to give my life to Christ and follow Him that all my sins were gone.  I thought that as soon as I left the church, I would not smoke, drink or do any drugs. I also thought that all those things fell off in the pool.  Boy, was I sadly mistaken.  I actually had to work at keeping myself away from those things and any other sins that I would commit.

As soon as I left the church, I got in the car and had my cigarette.  Why didn't this stay in that pool of water?  Once I got home, I slipped into my comfortable clothes and smoke a joint.  Why didn't that stay in that pool of water.  I wasn't done yet, I had to have my drink, that didn't stay in the pool either, imagine that.  What did I get for being baptized?  What special powers do I have?  This is exactly what I was thinking.  I later came to realize that I did have power, but I did not know anything about the power of the Holy Spirit or how to use it.  So to me, all I got was really wet.

Well, I mind as well keep going to church.  It's not that far from the house and I did like the pastor and the choir.  I had a great time at church when it came to fellowship with the other saints.  I kept going back, I just kept going back.  Sunday after Sunday, then Bible study after Bible Study.  Eventually the power that I was expecting finally showed up.  I begin to get convicted of those things that I just wasn't ready to leave at the altar.  That power was the Holy Spirit and He wasn't giving up on me without a fight.  Thank God.

I stood at the altar and had hands laid upon me three times for drugs, twice for alcohol and I can't even count how many times for cigarettes.  Each time that I would get up off that purple carpet, I thought things just magically disappeared.  Nope, they don't.  I stumbled again and again, until finally I had to make up in my own mind that I was worth more.  I had to come to the realization that I was valuable to Christ.

Woman of God, don't you spend time worrying about how many times you stumble, as long as you don't fall.  If you are having trouble with a particular sin in your life, keep stepping and the Lord will take care of it.  You were not made to fall.  Don't let the enemy trick you into thinking that God is not going to kept helping you.  Yes, He will, if you keep going back.  Think about how many times you help your own children that you love.  God loves you more than that so just keep on stepping.  The bible says that a just man will fall seven times before he finally get it.  So you will stumble, its in your nature, but you have to make a conscience decision that you are going to be a fighter; not only will you be a fighter, but you will be a winner.  You will receive that crown in the end. I don't even want to entertain the thought that what if I just stayed down and gave up my birth right.  If you stay down you are giving up your birth right, your inheritance, your place in heaven.

The scripture clearly states that the Lord will make your step's firm, if He delights in you.  The Lord delights in you every time He sees you trying.  He will not let you fall, He will uphold you with His hands.  Praise God!  Amen!

Saturday, August 18, 2012

YOUR DEATH SENTENCE

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God! 

I always call you mighty women of God because I want you to get in embedded in your spirit that is who you are and can become in Christ Jesus.  I speak blessings of peace and joy in your life and pray that you are all seeking the Lord more and more each day.

(Isaiah 55:7), Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

When you are out in the world doing your own thing and not considering how important your soul is to Christ; you are living a sinful life.  If you are attending church services every Sunday, that does not exclude you from getting the death sentence, you have to be born again.  It is true, that the church is full of sinners.  The bible states that, “All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God’.  This only means that we are all sinners and will continue to sin because of our imperfections.  Now here’s the catch:  if you are a born again Christian, Jesus Christ has taken your sins upon His shoulders and carried them to the cross and now He intercedes on your behalf daily.  If you ask the Lord God to forgive you of all your sins, He is just and compassionate, and will pardon you.

If you are not a born again Christian than you will remain a sinner according to God the Father.  The difference between a sinner that repents daily and tries to live a life of righteousness and the sinner that does not even think about living righteous or asking for forgiveness is one has a “life sentence” and the other a “death sentence”.

You will be pardoned only if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  If you have not accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior and repented of your sins, then you have given yourself a “death sentence”.  Being in the Body of Christ should be the only time you should desire to hear the words, “life without the possibility of parole”.

Because of what happened in the Garden of Eden, we were all given the death sentence even before we were born.  Once Jesus Christ, the Son of the Living God, died for us, rose again and ascended into heaven we were all given the ability to receive a “life sentence.”  In order to receive that “life sentence” we must believe that Jesus Christ is the Messiah, the Anointed One and the only way to heaven.  The bible states that, once Jesus Christ was baptized, God the Fathers said, “Here is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased with, no one comes to the Father except through Him.  Though we were all born with the “death sentence”, we are all given the choice on whether we want to live or die.  The ability to choose a “life sentence” or “death sentence”.  Just think, when a prisoner is given the “death sentence”, he is sitting behind bars waiting for a pardon from the governor.  If the governor does not call to pardon him before his is scheduled to die, his sentence is carried out.  The prisoner doesn’t know if the warden will call or not, he is just hoping that he will hear that phone ring.

On the other side of the bars; though we are born with a “death sentence”, we are sitting behind bars with the choice of whether to accept or deny Jesus Christ as the Son of the Living God.  Those of us that do accept Christ and at least try to live a righteous life for Him, will receive a “life sentence” without the possibility of parole.  Like that prisoner, we don’t know when Jesus Christ is coming, but we do know that He is coming back for His Bride.  The scripture tells us that God is full of mercy and will abundantly pardon all your sins.  When it is time to be handed down our death for the penalty of sin, Jesus Christ intercedes on our behalf and pardons all our sins.  We are immediately set free from a life of darkness and despair.  It will be as if you were in prison and the warden pardon you, you get to go free.  You are no longer a felon because the warden has given you a pass.  You no longer belong to Satan because Jesus Christ has pardoned you.  AMEN!

BREAKING SHACKLES

Good morning, Mighty Woman of God!

First of all I like say thank you all for always taking the time to read my blogs. It was a commission from God for me to write them everyday. So since the beginning of the year, I have been writing them, then I found an avenue to get the messages out to you. I pray the each of you by name currently 246 of you. I thank God for that. Now, I need your help in getting my book out to the public. A lot of you have more avenues than I do, so I am asking that you help the ministry. Purchase a copy for yourself, if you have been blessed daily by messages. Purchase a copy for a friend as a blessing to them. This ministry will continue to reach as many women as I can. I know that there are so many God wants to reach. So, if you can be a blessing to the ministry, purchase a copy of the book. I am already editting the second one. I love you all and no matter what, I will always be praying for each of you. Thanks for your support. God bless you

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Thursday, August 16, 2012

TOO MANY RULES


Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God! I pray that you are all blessed today.  I speak blessings of peace and love in your life.  God bless you, richly.

(Proverbs 22: 17-19), Pay attention and listen to the sayings of the wise; apply your heart to what I teach, for it is pleasing when you keep them in your heart and have all of them ready on your lips.  So that your trust may be in the Lord, I teach you today, even you.

I have heard a lot of people say that they did not want to be a Christian because there are too many rules to follow.  They think of God as some big judge, writing down every single thing that they do wrong.  God is not taking notes, He already had the notes before you were even in existence.  In fact, if God were taking notes, He would have run out of paper just on me alone.  I have also heard that being a Christian is no fun.  Dr. Robeson states that a sinner may say, "I can't accept Christ because there is so much I have to give up." And it is true the sinner must give up certain things. The mistake the sinner makes, however, is the VALUE he places on those things he must relinquish. 
The most dangerous thing about this type of thinking is that if you are not a believer, or trying to live righteous you should be afraid of the consequences.  If you are thinking about how bad it is to be a Christian, you need to think about how dangerous it is not to be a Christian.
Being a Christian is not a religion, it is a way of life.  It simply means that you have decided to try to live a Christ-like life, a life that is pleasing to the Lord God.  God is not caught up in whether or not you are following all the rules, He is concerned about your soul.  The reason why Jesus Christ died and rose again was because you won’t be able to follow all the rules.
Being a Christian can be a lot of fun. Try settling in a church on a regularly basis and getting involved in some activities.  You will find out that you can have a lot of fun.  The music is not the same as in the club but you can get your praise on in church.  Try getting high on Jesus instead of drugs.  Becoming addicted to Jesus Christ leads to life, addicted to drugs leads to death.
When I first started reading the bible, I thought that God was mean.  I read about all the wars and punishments that were handed down to disobedient people; and I just knew that I would not make the cut.  I also felt very sorry for Job, because he did not do anything wrong, but was tested so harshly.  I also had trouble understanding all the “thees and thous” of the King James Version of the bible.  I went to the bookstore to find versions of the bible that I could understand and used them interchangeably.
When I decided to give my life to Jesus, I mean really go for it; I had to give up a lot of worldly things and my worldly ways. I was afraid that I would not make it without a blunt every day.  I just changed a little bit at a time.  If you just try a little bit at a time, you will make it. God is not some huge judge taking notes of all your shortcomings and every little mistake you make.
This is a spiritual journey and you will make mistakes, but God is so compassionate and merciful that He give us grace and mercy. He is not taking notes.  The devil has blinded the eyes of the people because he is the tempter of those that are seeking to gain wealth, fame or popularity.  Satan makes it very easy to obtain those things, but are you really willing to pay the cost?  It is his job to make you think that being a Christian is no fun.  Living an ungodly life may be fun for right now, but what are you going to do when Jesus Christ comes back for His bride?

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

ACCORDING TO YOUR FAITH

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that you are all blessed and highly favored of the Lord on today.  I speak blessings of peace and joy upon you, in Jesus name.

(Matthew 9:28-29), And when he was come into the house; the blind men came to him; and Jesus saith unto them, "Believe ye that I am able to do this?  They said unto him, Yea, Lord.  Then touched he their eyes; saying, "According to your faith be it unto you.

In this scripture, there were two men following Jesus, begging Him to have mercy on them, so that they would receive their sight.  Jesus, asked them one question, "Do you believe".  Then as you notice, He then says something more important, "according to your faith".

Woman of God, do you believe?  How much faith do you really have?  Now, these may be easy questions for some of you, right away you probably say, "Yes, I believe, I have total faith in Jesus".  Some of you may have a little doubt and may say, "Well, I believe it's possible, but . . . ."  Let me tell you a little bit about me.  Again. 

I have been ministering to women for a number of years.  I have a constant prayer life and I consider myself to have a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.  I prophesy to woman in His name and pray for others.  But now here's my dilemma.  I have been praying to the Lord about a specific thing that I need for Him to do for me.  I have followed the instructions that He has given me, now I need a miracle.  I found appropriate scriptures in the bible and have listen to other peoples testimonies and then I say to myself, "Okay, I've got it, I know how to pray about this situation".

This morning, as I was studying the word, God showed me that scripture.  Then He posed a questions to me, "Do you really believe?"  Well, I took awhile to answer, then with my head hanging down, I had to admit, that I didn't.  So then God says to me, "According to your faith, it will be done for you".  But as I listened closely to His words, I had come to the conclusion that I am not going to receive the miracle, if it is based on my faith.  The reason why I am telling you about my background is because sometimes no matter how far you think you have come, you might found out that you still have a little further to go.  You would think that I would have been jumping for joy and saying yes, Lord, I believe, but I had to look into my heart and be truthful with myself.

The message for us today it to change our mindset.  If you are believing the Lord for something, think about that scripture and be honest with yourself.  It does not mean that the Lord will not bless you, He wants you to grow in Him.  The second part is that according to your faith is the amount that you will receive from the Lord.  If you only have enough faith to believe Him for the little bit, that is exactly what you will receive, a little bit.  If you believe Him for the biggest blessing, that is what you will receive, the biggest.  So, ask yourself those two questions and if your answer comes out a little bit like mines did, then change your mindset.  Start rehearsing over and over in your mind what you are believing the Lord to do for you until it gets so far down in your spirit that know devil in hell can tell you that it won't be done.  As for me, I am going to start claiming my blessing over and over again, until it is embedded way down in my spirit.  Amen.  God bless you.

I pray that this was a timely message for someone on today.  I love you with the love of the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Monday, August 13, 2012

BY FAITH

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that you are all in good health and in great spirit.  I speak blessings of love, peace and joy upon you.  I speak God's mercy and grace into your life.

(Hebrews 11:1-31), Now faith is being sure of what we hop for and certain of what we do not see.  This is what the ancients were commended for.

I did not put the entire versus down because it would be too long.  Please read the entire 11th chapter of Hebrews so that you can gain full knowledge of how important Faith in the Lord Jesus can be.  I will give you only the beginning of each verse.  The Lord wants you to not only see this, but catch it as well.  Are you ready?

(3) By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command (4) By faith Abel offered God a better sacrifice than Cain did, By faith he was commended as a righteous man, And by faith he still speaks, even though he is dead. (5) By faith Enoch was taken from this life, so that he did not experience death (6) And with faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who come to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek Him (7) By faith Noah, when warned about things not yet see, built an ark, (8) By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed (9) By faith he made his home in the promised land (11) By faith Abraham, even though he was past age, and Sarah herself was barren became a father (13) by faith when they died, They did not receive things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance (17) By faith Abraham, when God tested him, offered Isaac as a sacrifice (20) By faith Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau in regard to their future. (21) By faith Jacob, when he was dying, blessed each of Joseph's sons, and worshipped as he leaned on the top of his staff. (22) By faith Joseph, when his end was near spoke about the exodus of the Israelites from Egypt. (23) By faith Moses' parents hid him for three months after he was born (24) By faith Moses chose to be mistreated for his people (27) By faith he left Egypt, not fearing the king's anger (28) By faith he kept the Passover and the sprinkling of blood (29) By faith the people passed through the Red Sea on dry land (30) By faith the walls of Jericho fell (31) By faith the prostitute Rahab, because she welcomed the spies, was not killed with those who were disobedient.

Woman of God, there are so many more people in the bible that acted by faith and obedience to the Lord God.  If you are in obedience to the Lord and have faith, He shall bring it to pass.  Faith is something that can never be seen by man, but it can be tested by God.  When God is testing your faith, remember the people spoken in the book of Hebrews. Remember Abraham because of his faith he and Sarah had a child that they had been believing God for, at their old age.  Abraham was willing to be obedient to God to sacrifice his only son.

God the Father, sacrificed His only Son in order for us to live eternity in heaven alongside of Him.  By faith, this is what you must believe if you are looking forward to God's blessings.  By faith, you must believe that after this life, you will spend eternity with the Lord Jesus Christ that died for you and me, by faith.  PRAISE GOD!  AMEN

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Saturday, August 11, 2012

A WIMPY GOD

Good morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that you are all in good health and today's message will be a blessing to you.  I speak blessings of favor upon you. 

(Psalms 37:4-5), Delight thyself also in the Lord, and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.  Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.

I have been dealing with the issue of how to get my book out to the public.  I have followed God's instructions and now I am waiting for a miraculous move on His behalf.  Through this book, my prayer is that I can get some speaking engagements (paid or not).  It's not about the money, it's about souls and the fact that I don't feel whole unless I am out ministering and praying for women.  I pray about the ministry and the book daily.

Yesterday, I read something that was such an eye-opener to me.  A minister and author was saying that she was desiring the same thing as myself, but her mistake was that she looked at God as "wimpy".  I don't know about you, but I serve a big God.  She said she never really prayed exactly what she wanted God to do.  Her prayer was basically, "Well, God, if you want to, or God, if you see fit".  As I read her blog, I could relate to that.  Sometimes we pray with all faith and then we close our prayer with a simple, "If it is Your will".  Of course, it is God's will that we prosper, especially if it is something that will bring souls to Him.  If it is something that He has guided you through.

I will give you a quick story.  Yeah, I always have a story.  I was looking for a new job and I had been praying about it for a year.  I had the faith that God would do it for me, but I just had a simple pray, for a "wimpy God", not a prayer for a big God.  I was not specific as to what I desired God to do for me.  Then my prayer changed, I got specific.  Here is my big God prayer; "Lord, I am praying for a good job, one that I will be happy to get up in the morning and go to, I would like great benefits for my family, I don't want to travel too long to get to my job, I want Christmas bonuses and I want to work for a great company.

Within a weeks time I had an interview for a new job.  They called me back and offered me the job, but there was one catch, I had to take a $5,000 pay cut.  But here is what they offered; I didn't have to travel far the train stopped under the same building that I recently worked at, the health benefit were awesome, they offered Christmas bonuses, and yearly bonuses.  And every January the entire department went on an all inclusive paid vacation to a beautiful island.  The first year, I went to the Bahamas, then Jamaica, Cancun and the Playa Mexico.  That was definitely worth the $5,000 pay cut, which was I received over the years time.

Woman of God, my message to you is that we don't serve a "wimpy God".  We serve a God that is able to do above anything that we can ever even imagine.  We serve a God that will open up the windows of heaven and pour us out a blessing that will overtake us.  So the next time that you are praying and believing the Lord for something, be specific.  Instead of praying for a job, tell Him what type of job you want, tell Him what type of car you desire, don't just pray for a husband, pray for a man of God that will love you as much as God loves you.  Be specific, we don't serve a "wimpy God".  So now even my prayers will change.  I knew to be specific, but I let that one get pass me.  Praise God.  Amen! God bless you.

If you are interested in purchases a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women - Breaking Shackles", go to www.xlibris.com and enter ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-7 or call 888-795-4274 ext. 7879.  Thank you for your support.  God Bless You.

Friday, August 10, 2012

KEEP IT TOGETHER

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I speak blessings into your life and pray that this ministry has been and will continue to be a blessing to you spiritually.

When things go wrong, as they sometimes do, this is the time to "keep it together".  I can remember a time where we really did not have enough food to eat.  The Holy Spirit reminded me of the scripture that the Lord will supply all of my needs.  I took another look in my cabinets and refrigerator and I did find something to cook.  It may not have been what I wanted but it was definitely edible and enough for a couple of days.

Here is a list of items that you should always try to keep in your cabinet and refrigerator. Pancake mix (you only need water), rice (starch will fill you up) and it's cheap. Beans (very cheap and will keep you full). Applesauce (kids love applesauce), peanut butter, jelly, romane noodles, saltine crackers (they're cheap and you can use your peanut with them). Having just those items in your kitchen will go a long way. I know. It may not be exactly what you want at the time, but the main thing is that you and your children eat. Your children will never know that you are having financial difficulties.  Also call your local food banks, don't ever have too much pride, when you have children to feed.  I have gotten up four hours early to be in line for boxes of food and then had to push my cart a couple of miles home.  I did not care, my son did eat.  Things will get better, but for now, "keep it together".

Sometimes it looks like God is not concerned about our daily needs when we desire something that we already have.  You might be in a situation in your home and you think that God is not concerned about your well being, He is right there with you.  When you are suffering, God is hurting.  He never leaves nor forsakes you, although in your mind, he has left you a long time ago.  During this point in your life where you feel a spiritual drought, is when you praise Him more.  The Lord God wants you to keep it together.  Don't let the enemy see you sweat, don't let have a pity party, because God doesn't go to those types of parties.  Have a praise party and shake the devil loose.  It's okay to cry, if you have to go in the bathroom, cry and dry your face but "keep it together".

The Lord God is watching you, He wants to see if you pray anyhow.  If you praise, anyhow.  If you give Him glory anyhow.  God wants you to be matured in every area of your life.  He knows you can praise and worship Him when things are going great, but will you still praise and worship when things are falling apart?  Will you "keep it together?"  AMEN! GOD BLESS YOU!

If you are interested in purchasing a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women - Breaking Shackles", go to www.xlibris.com and enter ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-1 or call 888-795-4274 ext. 7879. Thank you for your support for the ministry. God bless you.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

HE LOVES ME . . . HE LOVES NOT

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I bless the Lord Jesus Christ for each of you in the ministry.  Thank you for your support and reading my daily messages.  I pray that you have been released from at least some of the issues that have kept you spiritually bound. 

Do you remember collecting flowers and you would pick off each pedal saying, "He loves me, he love me not"?  If the pedal did not land on "he loves me", you would pick another flower and start all over again until you landed on "he loves me"

Now, it's time for the message, it might be a little brutal, but I pray that you are helped in some kind of way.  Some of you are treating your relationships just like those flower pedal.  You throw one man and pick up another one right away, ending up with the same results.  You just continue picking the wrong man.  At some point in your mind you think to yourself, "Why do I keep picking the wrong man?"  It seems like you have a sign on your forehead that says, "You can treat me like crap".  As soon as you are rid of one man, you never give yourself time to get over that relationship before you begin another one.  That is your first mistake.  If you have been in a relationship with a man that you were in love with, you need to take some time for yourself to heal.  But you don't do that, you are sucked right away into another relationship that will ultimately fell.

Some of you are in abusive relationships and you know it but you will not acknowledge it to yourself.  You make excuses as to why that man of yours acts the way that he does.  If you get out of that type of relationship, you need to give yourself time for your heart to heal.  If you continue to stay in that relationship then you are setting yourself up for a life of long disappointments.  Any man that is abusive will never change.  I know.  You cannot change that man.  Some women get involved with the wrong type of man, knowingly, but the thought in your mind is that you will somehow change his ways, because you think he's cute.

Some of you are in relationships with a man that stays away from home for a considerable amount of days and you allow this type of behavior to continue.  You think that if you do this, or that, he will stop going out altogether.  You are sadly mistaken.  The more bad behavior that you put up with the more you will get.  If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting.  You main reason for allowing that man to stick around is that you don't want to be lonely or you are so in love.  If you are in love with that type of behavior, then I must say, you don't think too much about yourself.

You are the most important person in your life.  You are a woman of value and you are allowing someone else to pull your strings.  You need to be jealous over yourself, not over some man.  If you need to check emails and phone messages, you are in the wrong relationship.  You need to believe that God wants the best for you.  The Lord does not want you to be a victim of any man.  God is a jealous God, and you are putting that man before Him.  How?  Because you are allowing that relationship to overcome your relationship with God.  The bible says, "put no man before God".

Again, love is an action word. If you are in a relationship with a man that is not showing you, by his actions that he loves you, then you are selling yourself short.  You are accepting less than you deserve.  I realize that it is sometimes hard to leave a relationship that you have been in for a long time, but think on the fact that you have been mistreat that long.  Flowers, candy and dinners don't constitute love, especially if after all that he doesn't come home or is abusive when he is at home.  You know that if a man doesn't come home all night he is sleeping somewhere no matter what story he comes up with, you just buy into the story.  If you have to check emails, facebook or phones then you are in the wrong relationship, "he loves you not". 

There is only one relationship that you can be in and be sure that "he love you" without picking pedals is a relationship with Jesus Christ.  Get yourself in a relationship with God, he will never fail.
Amen!

If you are interested in purchasing a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women - Breaking Shackles", go to www.xlibris.com and enter ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-1 or call 888-795-4274 ext. 7879.  Thank you for your support for the ministry.  God bless you.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

WELL DONE . . . SERVANT

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I thank God for each of you and the ministry.  My prayer is that you are being spiritually fed daily and you are developing a closer relationship with the Lord, Jesus Christ.

(Matthew 25:21) At the end of the age when we are face to face with God, we all want Him to say well done my good and faithful servant. In this verse, Jesus tells a parable of a master telling his servant that he was good and faithful with a few things, and hence will be given even more.

When you see Jesus face to face, what will He say to you?  God has given you talents, spiritual gifts and treasures, what are you doing with them?
Woman of God, you have been given a talent that God has placed on the inside of you from the time that you were born.  Your talent could be singing, teaching, writing, playing musical instrument or some other talent.  Whatever your talent is, you don't have to dig deep to find it.  It shows itself.  Your talent is something that you do with ease.  You don't have to study for it, or you excel in that very thing that the Lord has blessed you with.  Your spiritual gift is given by the Holy Spirit.  It is a gift for you to use to edify the Body of Christ.  Your spiritual gift will always be a blessing to someone else if you are using it under the power of the Holy Spirit.  Your treasure is your finances.

The bible tells us to use our time, talents and treasurers for the church.  Not the building, the people outside of the building.  You should be using those things to add to the Body of Christ by ministering to the sick, shelters, homeless and yes, even those people you see everyday that you try to avoid because they smell or are not your class of people.

If you are faithful over the little things that the Lord gives you, then He will increase your worth.  If you are faithful with your talent (using it to glorify the Lord), he will perfect that which was given.  If you are faithful with the treasurers that you have (giving, tithes), He will increase your finances because He sees that you are not selfish.

The best way to make sure that you are making good use of what the Lord has given to you, is to ask Him to show you how to be a good steward over your finances, talent and spiritual gifts.  Whenever you are giving, be a cheerful giver.  Whenever you are ministering to someone, minister out of love.  Whenever you show up for your job, show up on time.  Do these things to the glory of God, for the Lord, not for yourself, this will keep you selfless, not selfish.

You will be overwhelmed by what the Lord God will do for you because of your love and actions towards others.  This Christian walk is all about how you treat others, not how others treat you.  You worry about you and let God worry about them.  God the Father gave you His best when He sent His Son to die on the cross for you.  Give God your best and watch Him change your life.  Amen!  Praise God!

If you are interested in purchasing a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women - Breaking Shackles", go to www.xlibris.com and enter the ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-7.  Thank you for your support for the ministry.  God bless you.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

A SPIRIT OF WORSHIP

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I thank God for you and pray that you are all blessed in everything that you do.  I speak blessings of healing and peace in your families.

(Romans 12:1), Therefore, I urge you brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, this is your spiritual act of worship.
 
 
Woman of God, I want to help you develop a closer relationship with the Lord through worship.  When we think about worship, we think about being in a quiet place, lifting hands or kneeling in prayer.  You might even think that you have to be in a church service to offer God worship.  All of these are good but what if you aren't able to get into a quiet place or a church building?
 
 
Worshipping God can be done in a lot of different ways.  We are to worship the Lord in every thing that we do and say.  You can worship God by listening to gospel music while doing household chores.  You can also worship God by praying with or for someone else.  You can worship God by fasting, showing love towards others or by giving towards others.  All of these are acts of worship. Worship is not just listening to soft music while lifting your hands in prayer.  You can worship the Lord in every act of kindness that you do.  Anything that you do that brings glory to the Lord is an act of worship.  Music or church has nothing to do with your worship.

You offer your entire body as a living sacrifice to God by your everyday actions.  The Lord does not want you to be limited to a church building or a quiet room to worship Him.  If you don't put God in a box then you will find out that there is more to Him than you could ever imagine.  We often put God in a box without even realizing it, by believing that He only moves in certain ways or situations.  You are always going to come up short when you put God in a box.  God moves in different ways according to the circumstances.  You can give God praise and worship just by offering yourself to someone else.  What I mean by this is, offer your talents, treasures or time to help someone other than yourself.  When you do this, you are offering your whole body not just your hands, this is your spiritual act of worship.

God does not just want part of you.  If you expect God to bless you abundantly, then why offer Him half of worship.  Worship God in spirit and in truth simply means that you are truthful with Him and that your spirit is in sync with Him.  Worship the Lord everyday just by offering yourself to Him and allowing Him to use you in any way that He chooses.  Amen!
If you are interested in purchasing a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women, Breaking Shackles", go to www.xlibris.com and enter ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-7 or call 888-795-4274 ext. 7879.  Thank you for supporting the ministry.  God bless you.

Monday, August 6, 2012

YOUR LIFE IS OVER

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I thank God for each of you daily and "Spiritual Growth for Women Ministry".  I pray that the Lord will blessed you more than you can even comprehend. 

(Ephesians 2:16), You are members of God's very own family, citizens of God's country, and you belong in God's household with every other Christian.

Aren't you glad you gave your life over to the Lord Jesus Christ?  Now He can take care of all the problems you thought your had to handle by yourself.  Thank you Jesus!  You don't have to be concerned about making mistakes or going in the wrong direction.  You don't have to sit and worry about having enough finances to take care of your everyday needs.  The bibles says, that the Lord takes care of even the birds of the air, surely He will take care of you.

The moment you decided to give your life to Jesus Christ, His blood is now on your hands.  Everything that you touch will be blessed.  All your sins, past, present and future are forgiven, because Jesus Christ the Son of the Living God, sits on the right hand of God the Father and intercedes on your behalf.

This is very important to you because the enemy goes to and from heaven accusing you of your daily sins.  He is trying to get the Lord to punish you, but because your life is now belonging to Christ, Jesus whispers in the Father's ear and says, "She's mine, she's forgiven". HALLELUJAH!  If that doesn't make you give the Lord praise, you just don't get it yet.

Think on this; think back over your life and all the messy situations that you have been in and by this worlds' standards and laws you should be dead.  Think about all the times that you have really done something that you knew was not right, but you did it anyway, and yet, Christ loves you so much, He still whispered, "She's mine, she's forgiven.  Think about the times when you should have been put in jail, lost your job, your home and your life, but instead you were blessed.  Think about the times when you prayed for a miracle and Christ says, "It's on the way, my daughter".   Think about the times that you knew you had one foot in hell and Christ said, "Not so".  Think about the times that you don't even know about and the Lord snatched you out of the enemies reach.  MY GOD!

It's time to think back over your life and give honor to whom honor is due.  Jesus Christ the Son of the Living God!  Amen.

If you are interested in blessing the ministry and are able to purchase a copy of "Spiritual Growth for Women, Breaking Shackles", please go to www.xlibris.com and enter the ISBN number 978-1-4771-1271-7 or call 1888-795-4274 ext. 7879.  Thank you so much for your support.

Friday, August 3, 2012

SWALLOW IT

Good Morning, Mighty Woman of God!

I pray that you are all blessed and highly favored of the Lord Jesus Christ on today.  I speak joy into your life and I also pray that you have been blessed through "Spiritual Growth for Women Ministry".

(Proverbs 16:18-19), Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall.  It is better to live humbly with the poor than to share plunder with the proud.

Woman of God, sometimes you just have to swallow it.  Swallow it, what do you mean?  Glad you asked, PRIDE.

I have had a hard time with this one myself.  Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and just be quiet or say I'm sorry to keep the peace in your home and life.  You are going to have to have a big throat at times, get a tall glass of water, and swallow your pride.  I was the type of person that despised saying the words, "I'm sorry".  So what I preferred to do was not do anything or say anything that would cause me to say, "I'm sorry'.  Well, that only worked for a minute, sometimes I wouldn't make it.  Don't feel bad, I am still working on that pride thing.

The reason why the scripture says that pride goes before destruction is because, if you are prideful, then you will ultimately be destructive.  You will disprute your household.  If you are in a disagreement with your spouse or someone else, sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and walk away.  It is very hard for some of us to do that because (1) you may be right (2) you have to have the last word (3) you just like confusion.  It's definitely in one of those categories.  I fit in at least two of them.

If you have a problem with pride, you know it and may not want to admit it but you have to.  You have to develop a humble spirit.  God cannot use pride, but He will use a spirit of humility.  It takes a lot of practice and prayer to get to the point where you are not full of pride.  A person that is prideful is also vain, neither of the two are of God.  You might find that the more humble in spirit you are the more blessed you will be.  God will reward you for at least trying.  You might mess up but you have to keep trying to get rid of that prideful spirit, it is of the enemy.  Pride has been the cause of a lot of wars in this world, so it will definitely cause a war in your home.  My advice is get a tall glass of water and get to swallowing.  It means that you are dying to you.  Jesus says, to follow Him, we must pick up our cross and walk.  That means you must die to your old nature and put Him first.  We dealing with pride, you must put the other person first.  Once you begin to put the other person first, then you will also develop a love for that person.

I know that there will be occasions when you are too mad to apologize, get your water and do it anyway, that humbles yourself and that is what God desires.  Your throat may be as big as a basketball once you start swallowing all that pride, but your heart will be softened and you would have gained a friend, JESUS CHRIST!  I think that is a small price to pay, don't you?
GOD BLESS YOU!

If you are interested in purchasing a copy of my book, "Spiritual Growth for Women, Breaking Shackles", please go to www.xlibris.com and enter ISBN number 978-1-4771-1272-4, thank you so much, and I know that the book will be a blessing to you. I love you with the love of the Lord.