Hello Mighty Woman of God! I pray that you are blessed and highly favored of our Lord Jesus Christ. I speak the blessings of God's favor upon you, in Jesus name.
(Matthew 19:5-6), "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain (two) shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain (two), but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder".
Okay, ladies, so you could say, "What makes her an expert on marriage?" Well, I'm not an expert and being married four times, still doesn't qualify me. So I am going to say, "I believe" or "in my opinion" therefore not being an expert.
Someone that is very close to me, recently got married and I was so happy for her. Two weeks later, I got a phone call, "I'm leaving, this marriage is not going to work". I laughed and told her "Well, you will probably get divorced at least five or six times before the year is over". It was true. I got divorced at least five times the first couple of years of my marriage. What I mean by getting a divorced five times is something a lot of us go through. We say we're leaving and never leave. We waste time packing clothes only to unpack them over and over again. I think it's funny now, but those first couple of years can be a handful. Needless to say, that person is still married and so am I. In fact, I just got divorced for the 20th time last week.
So what are the best ingredients for a marriage that will last through some harsh times and some happier times. A marriage that will last in spite of each other. The first ingredient is GOD. I believe that if you stand before God and say "I Do", then you should. Marriage takes a lot of work just like being a mother takes a lot of work. Just because you gave birth makes you a woman that birthed forth a child. Being a mother is something entirely different and special. Being married is something different than becoming a wife that your husband and others will call blessed.
I believe that it is better for a couple to stay friends with other couples. That way you are not hanging out with your single girlfriends and making your husband jealous. Even though you keep telling him that you aren't cheating, it is much easier not to even allow that doo to be opened. Now I'm not saying dump all your single friends, but have some couple dates as well. Now, here's another thing. Ladies, I have heard so many times that you think it's okay to hang out with your closest guy friends because you were friends before you got married. If you think that much of that guy friend then your husband, then you should have married him. Don't open that door.
Pick your battles. I have finally come to a point in my life (at the age of 50), when I learned how to pick my battles. I don't get upset about everything. Picking your battles mean that you will learn that some things just aren't that important. When you spend a lot of time arguing, satan is having a good ole time in your home. I have heard the term, "Never go to bed angry". Well, going to bed mad makes you get up mad. Try to just agree, not to agree.
This last thing is very important. Trust God. Hopefully you married a man that you can trust, so now it's time to trust God to guide you and your marriage the rest of the way. Now that works, it really does. PRAISE GOD!
Don't forget to sign up for the 2nd Annual Women's Conference, 6/7 1P-3P, Clarion Inn, South Holland, come out and be blessed. Also I will be signing copies of my books, "Breaking Shackles" and "Mighty Woman of God". See you soon! God bless you!