Monday, September 8, 2014
Today's message may hurt a little bit as it also did for me. I try very hard to allow the Holy Spirit to speak to you through me, so I know that you will be blessed by the message.
Lamentations 1:2, Bitterly she weeps at night, tears are upon her cheeks. Among all her lovers there is none to comfort her. All her friends have betrayed her; they have become her enemies.
I saw something on television once where the commentator asked a little girl that was about four years old what she wanted to be when she grew up. The little girls eyes lite up and she yelled out, "I'm going to be a 'fairy princess'. While the audience laughed that little girls had no reason to think that she couldn't be a fairy princess.
As little girls, life seems to us very simple. We don't fix in our minds or hearts that we want to grow up we want to marry a man that will hit, kick and shove us. We don't yell out we want to marry a man that will not respect us by cheating on us. We don't shout out that we want to be put out of our home because we are hooked on drugs or trying to numb the pain of a bad relationship with drugs and alcohol.
When I was a little girl, I was very loud and didn't tolerate anybody mistreating me. I was not the kind of girl that would let you get away with putting your hands on me in a bad manner. I was what my family and friends called 'bad', I mean I fought everybody, missed curfew and didn't care.
I don't know what is inside us women that allows a man to mistreat us in any way. I do know this when my friends were talking about their relationships I said nothing. I always said that besides homosexuals, battered women are definitely in their own little closet. You can't just spot us from looking at us at first sight. You might not even spot us when we are in a circle of friends. What makes us stay in that type of relationship when weren't raised in that type of household? What makes us love an abusive man more than we love ourselves? I can't tell you how many times I changed door locks only to give him the key. Countless nights looking out the window waiting for him to come home that night, but he didn't come home for day. Countless lies that I knew were lies but to me I justify it by accepting the lie, I will feel less stupid.
I don't have the answers to those questions but I do know that God, our Heavenly Father, did not create woman to be a man's punching bag. I do know that God says, "In the time of trouble He shall hide me". When I got out of my 10 years of domestic abuse, I said to my ex-husband, "Maybe you do love me, the best way that you know how, and right now that's not good enough". You see they may love you the best way they know how. They don't know any other way to let out what makes them less of a man. I've heard this saying before, "hurt people, hurt people".
There are no fairies, unicorns, prince that will swipe you off your feet. There's no Cinderella. When you decide to leave, if it is not your decision, but family or friends, you will go back and the cycle will continue until you're mentally strong enough. Don't think about all the stuff you're going to lose, think about the soul (yours) that you will gain.
Heavenly Father, I pray right now for my sister's that may be going through a bad situation in their homes. Father I pray that you guide and protect them, send your warring angels to cover them, keep them safe and their children, Father. I pray for healing in their hearts and mind, in Jesus name, Amen!