Wednesday, January 30, 2013

ABUSE IS NOT OKAY


My prayer for you today is that you receive this message out of the love that I am sending it to you.  I pray that the Lord will bless you with a spirit of peace.  God bless you!
 
Woman of God, many of you in the ministry are hiding your pain very well to the public but not from God.  I want you o keep an open mind as He speaks to you today.
 
(Psalms 23: 1-4), You are in a deep valley.  You can see no way out.  You go to church and work hiding behind a superficial smile.  You greet everyone you know with a smile but deep inside you are in so much pain, you're feel trapped in a deep valley.  You have no friends because that man has made sure that they don't come around anymore.  He has to make sure that you are controlled in every way.
 
I used to see couples holding hands and showing loving affection towards one another and I would wish that was me.  I couldn't watch people on television happy because it would only make me cry and wish that someone loved me like that.  I stayed because of promised and thinking that I should stay with him because of the years that I had put in that relationship.  I had made up in my mind that I should try to work it out with my abuser and I married him.
 
I've been there and I had to admit to myself that I was not strong enough to leave because I thought that I was in love.  I thought that things would get better.  I finally decided that I had to be strong enough for my children.  After numerous police report, Order of Protection, threats, going to a shelter and looking over my shoulder, I finally made it out.  One day my he came to my house and my new husband went outside to confront him and I watched my ex-husband run.  I did not expect that.  I found out that my abuser was really a coward.
 
Mighty woman of God, you are not supposed to be shaken, pushed, hit, kicked or knock down.  That is never a sign of love.  I always say that battered women are in the closet more than anybody else.  You don't talk about your relationship at the water cooler or to your friends.  You think that you are going to be called stupid for putting up with a man that beats on you.  You feel humiliated and ashamed of yourself.  Never in a million years did you think that your life would turn out like this.
 
Woman of God, if you are in an abusive relationship, acknowledge it to yourself, pray for God's protection and get out.  By any means necessary.  Don't think about the items you will leave behind, God will give it all back to you and more.  Believe that.  It's okay to say to yourself, "I love him".  Try saying "I love him, but".  But I have to leave.  When my ex-husband would say, "I love you", I said to myself, "He probably does, the best that he knows how, but that is not good enough for me".  I have been where you are and I know it's not easy to get out and stay out but that kind of relationship is very toxic and it will lead to nothing more than you living a life of misery, not him.  GOD BLESS YOU!
 
Heavenly Father, I pray for the women that are going through an abusive relationship.  I pray that you give them the strength to come out and stay out.  I pray that they may live under your divine protection at all times.  By the power of the Holy Spirit, I come against the spirit of confusion, I come against the spirit of heaviness and loose a spirit of praise in their lives today, in Jesus name, Amen!
 
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