I'll admit that I do watch talk shows every now and then. Without mentioning any particular talk show, I really must say that I have seen the same things happening over and over again. I'm going to step on some toes today, so put on your steel toe boots.
Let's just talk about me for a minute. My first and second husbands cheated on me with other women. In my second marriage, I spent a lot of time checking his pager, going through his pockets and even following him around town. I knew that he was cheated but I guess somewhere in the back of my mind, I wanted to be wrong. Back then the cellphones, Facebook and emails was not even thought about so I had to do hands on detective work. One day, I even spent the whole night park at his place because I saw his car outside and just assumed he was in the car. He wasn't. Anyway, I can go on and on about the stupid things that I did to catch someone cheating when I already knew the facts. It can be very draining and take up a lot of time to play detective when you shouldn't have to. I am telling you about me because as I said before, BEEN THERE DONE THAT!
1. If you feel the need to go through your man's cell phone, Facebook account or emails, something is very wrong with that relationship. You should not have any reason to feel that he's cheating. If he is giving you a reason to feel the need to play detective and insecure take time to look at that relationship and think, is it really worth it? 2.) If he is going through your phone, email, etc. he's insecure and those type of actions will lead to a toxic relationship, if you are not already there. 3) If you feel the need to have your man take a lie detector test, don't waste your time and hard earned money because you are most likely right. 4) If you get married to a man that has cheated on you time and time again, marriage will not change his behavior. I am not saying that once a cheater always a cheater because that is not a factual statement. But if he keeps cheating, it's not love. When you truly love someone, you will do any within your power to make them happy.
Women's intuition is a very true motto. I don't know what it is or why it is, but if you think about it, it's true. You can put 20 women in one room and a woman will know which one their husband is cheating with. Last but not least, if you are shacking up with your boyfriend for over five years waiting for him to put a ring on it, you maybe waiting a long time. You might also get a ring with the promise of a wedding just to shut you up. Watch for the signs ladies, watch for the signs.
Woman of God, if you feel like you have been in a relationship that is going nowhere, you're probably right. If you stay in an unfruitful boyfriend, girlfriend thing, you are missing out on God's best. If you remain where you are you will have missed the move of God for your life. You will miss out on the godly man He has waiting for you. It's true, "what God has for you, is for you", but if you miss your season you will have to wait until it comes back around again. God's timing is not the same as our timing so you will never know when your season is going to come back around again.
With all of my heart, I really pray that this message will be of help to someone. I am never judgmental because I have no right. I can't give you a message like this one without having to have experienced it myself. I love you with the love of the Lord. God bless you, my daughters and sisters in Christ Jesus.