(Ephesians 5:28-29 and 5:33), In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
What are the 4 C's of marriage? Communication, Compassion, Consideration, and Compliment.
COMMUNICATION, this is one of the main reasons why couples get divorced. If the devil can block the communication between a husband and wife, he will gain a foothold in your household. Some couples have a hard time communicated with each other. Either the communication ends up in an argument or couples don't communicate at all. If you keep God's guidelines, then your arguments will turn into better communication. Now, here's my story: My husband and I had a very hard time communicated our feelings to each other. If we were in disagreement with each other the communication always ended up in a big verbal fight. We finally found a church home here is Georgia in January and I have noticed that we are working on communicating to one another without a verbal fight.
COMPASSION, having compassion towards one other will keep your marriage centered around the Lord. Compassion means to love your husband unconditionally. Jesus had compassion towards all of us, which is the reason why He died on the cross for us. Having compassion towards one another will cause you to take your husbands feelings in CONSIDERATION. Even though you may feel justified and right, you always must have CONSIDERATION for your husband because he has feeling just as you do. You have to considered the fact that you are both imperfect people, therefore there will be times that you will disagree.
COMPLIMENT, I feel that it is necessary to compliment each other. Either on the way he looks or even things that your husband does for you. You might think that he should do so and so, but he doesn't have to. If couples spend time complimenting each other during the day, then you will find it easy to make love to one another later. I have always said that, a man can make love to his wife all during the day. That is as simple as him calling you just to say hello. Buying flowers just because. Asking how your day is going so far. I bet if you and your husband compliment each other all during the day, loving each other will be easy. One of the things that men don't understand, is that women desire compliments. If a woman has an affair, it is not for sex, it is for adoration and respect. Not to say that you should have an affair, but that is a true statement. I didn't like the fact that my husband had a fat stomach. One day in bible study the minister said, "the thing that you don't like about your husband, another woman will love". You complain, complain, complain, and your husband will find a woman that loves whatever you complain about all the time.
The bible says that God honors marriage. The bible does not say that God honors booty calls or a man and woman shacking up together. In my opinion, (I always say that because that's all it is an opinion) if you and your boyfriend have been living together for a long time, why not get married. If you don't think that the marriage will work, then why hang around. I also believe that if both parties in a relationship are believers of Christ Jesus, is a start to a happy marriage. The bibles also says, "husband love your wife as Christ loves the church". The church is not a building, it is the Body of Christ, the saints of God. If your husband is not saved then he can't possibly understand that he should love you as much as Christ loves him. PRAISE GOD!